Flattery Vs. Desperation
So a friend of mine from highschool, Greg, had a date with a chick he met online. They had a fine time and made a second date. Again they had a fine time. Greg thought he would take the initiative and immediately tell her what a good time he had. She had given him her personal email but also told him that she couldn’t check it during the day while she was working. He knew where she worked so he tried to guess at her work email. Unfortunately he sent an email to the other woman there with the same name- and the heading of the email read “I had a great time last night.”
Of course the girl was embarrassed and said he was unprofessional and that there was “a reason she had not given him her work email.” Granted, my friend is an idiot, he sent a very apologetic email to her WORK address! Even I told him he had not learned his lesson and he probably would not get a third date with this girl.
But it got me to thinking, if she had liked Greg more, would she have found this flattering? All professional ettiquet aside, he couldn’t wait to tell her how much he enjoyed spending time with her. He wasn’t afraid to go out on a limb- he might think twice next time. I like a girl who is upfront about how she feels (so long as we like each other!) And I don’t like to play games. I don’t wait three days before I call, I don’t even wait three rings before picking up the phone.
Do you play these games? Does desperation turn you off? do you also think Greg should have kept it to himself that he “goggled” his date?
ouch….. I think the fact that he tried to write to her was sweet. Would I write him off if I were her? No, not yet. But it would help if he diddnt write to her work email again
If I were her, I’d be embarrassed that he got the wrong person, but I’d think it was sweet. But sending the second (apologetic) email to her work address… that might make me think he was dense…